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skoosiepants ([personal profile] skoosiepants) wrote2006-12-20 08:36 pm

*wants to vomit*

My mom just called and talked to J's mom and for some reason I find that highly unsettling. J's mom thinks I'm very quiet. OMG, I'm too quiet. Me! It's SO TRUE. I'm horrible with real people. Like a robot, only less charismatic. I've known these folks for three years, and I can hardly hold a conversation with them. I'm such a freak.

My brother's fiance and my mom are like best buds or something, and I can't even be alone with J's mom or I start sweating.

So none of this matters, of course, except I'm going to have to somehow involve his mom in all the wedding planning, and it's like agonizing just thinking about picking up the phone.

I keep thinking they hate me behind my back, and J doesn't help because he thinks my fears are hilarious and often says that they DO hate me, and then laughs, because he's evil and I hate him. So does anyone have any in-law stories to help me feel not quite so freakish?

I'm going to worry about this all night.

[identity profile] starrika.livejournal.com 2006-12-21 04:18 am (UTC)(link)
My mom had only met my father's parents a handful of times before they were married, and my grandmother is intimidating by nature. I believe it was the second time they met, she started a conversation with my mother by leaning over and asking her seriously if she could "Ask her a personal question." My mother was sweating bullets, but it turned out to be something totally inconsequential. Once my grandmother had "hazed" her a bit, they eased up :)

Twenty five years later, they say she's a better daughter than the ones they produced, so I wouldn't worry. I'm sure planning a wedding is stressful and dealing with in-laws even more, but perhaps it'll make you feel less nervous around them -it's always good to be optimistic :)

[identity profile] skoosiepants.livejournal.com 2006-12-21 02:02 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sure planning a wedding is stressful and dealing with in-laws even more, but perhaps it'll make you feel less nervous around them -it's always good to be optimistic :) I'm hoping this is what will happen. Or maybe if my mom and dad are comfortable with them, it'll leak to me. Sometimes that happens, too.

And holidays are always stressful for me anyway. He has a HUGE extended family that is very close, and I have to go to a family party and then christmas dinner and I'm really not used to that. My family is very, very small.