*wants to vomit*

[skoosiepants]

My mom just called and talked to J's mom and for some reason I find that highly unsettling. J's mom thinks I'm very quiet. OMG, I'm too quiet. Me! It's SO TRUE. I'm horrible with real people. Like a robot, only less charismatic. I've known these folks for three years, and I can hardly hold a conversation with them. I'm such a freak.

My brother's fiance and my mom are like best buds or something, and I can't even be alone with J's mom or I start sweating.

So none of this matters, of course, except I'm going to have to somehow involve his mom in all the wedding planning, and it's like agonizing just thinking about picking up the phone.

I keep thinking they hate me behind my back, and J doesn't help because he thinks my fears are hilarious and often says that they DO hate me, and then laughs, because he's evil and I hate him. So does anyone have any in-law stories to help me feel not quite so freakish?

I'm going to worry about this all night.

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[lilysaid.livejournal.com]

My father-in-law is really old--no, really, he could easily be my grandfather--and he is so old-fashioned about men and women that he will not even speak to me directly. Women should be seen and not heard, or something, and every time we visit them he takes John out "driving" so they can talk while I have to sit and make small-talk in a room crowded with a terrifying number of knick-knacks with his wife, an old lady who waits on him hand and foot and REALLY REALLY loves to talk about the weather.

um. so, at least you are acknowledged as a person?

also, you are so fabulous that there's no way they hate you--they just need to get to know the real you.

[veracity]

*whispers* Marry in Vegas and then you won't have to worry about the in-laws. *grins*

[nunshavingfun.livejournal.com]

Don't worry about them. J loves you! Just um don't accidently kill them and I think you will be ok.

Once I laughed so hard I threw up. That isn't an in-law story (mainly because I am not married...) but I figured embarrassment would cheer you up.

[barely-bean.livejournal.com]

*hugs you*

You can't always get along with the in-laws. The important thing is your fiance loves you and it will all be fine. Plus, you're super awesome.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

oh wow, you totally win on the in-law front, with the ignoring and the weather, yeah. Oh god, and small-talk is the worst

also, you are so fabulous that there's no way they hate you *loves you*

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

but I want a wedding! I just don't want all the hassles before hand :(

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

omg, that's hilarious and horrible. you threw up? oh god. totally embarrassing. *hee*

[veracity]

Well, now you're just being difficult.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

*hugs back* I just wish I could be comfortable around them. Maybe in another three years?

Plus, you're super awesome. :P

[absolut-jmo.livejournal.com]

I get along well with my in-laws. Even though the first time I met my father-in-law was when hubby and I were dating in college and he um...walked into hubby's dorm room, where I was --- sleeping in his bed. *ahem*

Anyhoo!!! My sister had to schedule her wedding to coincide with the cycle of the planets or else her future mom-in-law would not come to the wedding because the marriage would be d00med.

*squinches you* Also - please to be not vomitting.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

I know. This marriage business sucks. I'm definitely not one of those nitpicky brides.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

He walked in on you? That's so embarrassing. But at least you get along with them *nods* I wouldn't say that I don't get along with J's parents, I just wish I felt more myself around them.

My sister had to schedule her wedding to coincide with the cycle of the planets or else her future mom-in-law would not come to the wedding because the marriage would be d00med. *laughs* that actually sounds like fun :)

[veracity]

I say you should follow Pheeb's example and get married in a cemetery.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

ewwwwww

[veracity]

Well, you'd have a short guest list.

[nunshavingfun.livejournal.com]

yeah and then I had to get out of the car at the beach and rinse myself off in front of the mexican dementor. If you think your in-laws are scary, they've got nothing on that guy.

[absolut-jmo.livejournal.com]

We were actually just sleeping, thank goodness. *G*

It took me a while to feel myself around my in-laws. Now my husband says he married his mother. (She and I don't know how we should take this) We are actually a lot alike.

I'm sure you'll grow more comfortable with them, especially with the planning and all the good/fun reasons you'll have to talk. Chin up.

They do like animals, don't they?

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

J's parents would really love me then.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

I can't even imagine.

[skoosiepants.livejournal.com]

yes, they do love animals. they already call all our dogs their grandchildren *g*

[veracity]

Well, at least you'd be popular!

[marf-the-river.livejournal.com]

Oh God, do I feel your pain!

My in-laws live in England, and when we go visit it's just two weeks of head nodding and smiling and feeling completely inadequate and going crazy. Father-in-law has the thickest accent I've ever heard, and I don't understand a word he says.

I once laughed after he told me about something he'd seen on the news that apparently involved death! I *laughed* and it wasn't funny at all. They mostly think of me as that weird Canadian girl that scored their son, but they're nice about it...I think...when I understand them they seem nice. :)

Don't worry about it, maybe this wedding planning will get you and your mother-in-law closer, and all the worry will magically disappear :)

[absolut-jmo.livejournal.com]

Excellent! *pokes you* Silly girl. You should not need to worry a'tall then.

[lilysaid.livejournal.com]

also, I forgot to say Congratulations!

[argosy.livejournal.com]

No in-law stories, but I was watching NewsRadio today when Jimmy James said, "Jimmy has fancy plans, and pants to match." So that's where it comes from. *g*